Isn’t it to hard?

He was sitting across me and telling me there would be noooooooo way that he could do what I asked him for. His reason. ‘I don’t have time.’ I was like ‘Are you kidding me? You are retired, having the whole day at your disposal. When I can squeeze writing in my schedule you can too.’ Silence. Surprise.

He couldn’t believe that was doing exactly the same thing I was asking him to do. We were battling about the issue for weeks. He told me he felt energized every time he left my office, but couldn’t bring himself to do one thing I was asking him to do. In the end he decided to drop out. To much work.

In my view you either  want to change or you don’t. Nobody is going to do it for you. No doctor is going to solve your health problems. We guide you, we are there for you when you fall down, we help you to get up again. The work needs to be done by you.

You need this process called healing. Your body and mind crave it. A substitute won’t do the trick.

Why? If you take a pill your symptoms go away. The underlying reason for the symptom is still there waiting to cause another problem. You have to look for your personal reason, dive into it, fight it and finally accept it. Only then miracles happen. Healing is a whole body, mind and soul experience. You have to feel. You can’t think it.

I know it may sound harsh.

Start with baby steps. Pick one thing. Later on after two or three weeks pick another one. Get to know yourself. Step by step. Cry and laugh, grieve and stay in silence. Invite your feelings back in.

 

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  • Laurel
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    Tiny — This is so true. Sometimes people expect change to be an easy process, one that does not take a real commitment of time, energy, and effort. We live in a drive-through society, and I think that many people are not familiar with the concept of having to make efforts consistently and persistently to achieve their goals. Change need not be painful grinding process, but it does take some work on a consistent basis or it falls flat.

    Best to you —
    Laurel

    • Dr. Tiny Jaentsch
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      Hey Laurel,
      good to see you here;-)
      I think it always hurts a little bit but considering the outcome it doesn’t matter.

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